I Ain’t Got no Satisfaction

What is the correlation between satisfaction and expectations? Often we create expectations that are impossible to meet and then feel dissatisfied when these expectations aren’t met. Sometimes the expectation we create in our mind is so exaggerated that reality can never quite meet the same level of intensity that our mind has created. Other times, we lower our expectations and then enjoy the surprise when the event exceeds what we thought it would be. However, some feel that altering your expectations is the equivalent of settling. Others fool themselves and pretend to be satisfied when they truly aren’t.

What are the expectations you set for yourself verses those you set for others? Why is it that we are willing to give other’s the benefit of the doubt, yet when it comes to ourselves, we immediately judge?

What does being satisfied mean to you? Is it possible that being “good enough” is enough?

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No Excuses Tips for Taking a Little Vacation

Everyone needs a break, some time away, something that pulls us away from the day-to-day. A self-described work-lover myself (workaholic is so harsh! :)) I seldom find the time or resources to get away. I.e. "Why would I spend money on a vacation when I can use that money to build a website?...the website would be more fun anyway..." You get the point.

It wasn't until I was watching the sunset over the beach this weekend that I realized how much I needed it. And upon researching the topic it turns out we all need it. Dr. Mailika Marshall says "Several studies have suggested over the years that people who take vacations on a regular basis have lower rates of stress and therefore are at lower risk for some of these health problems."


So let's break down the excuses- 
"I don't have the time"- Even getting away for a night can feel refreshing. Sometimes just the motion of packing an overnight bag can signal to the brain that it's vacation time. Make sure that you go somewhere different than what's around you...if you live in the city go to the beach, if you live by the beach go to wine country, etc. Seeing something new will also signal a break from the stresses of home.


"I don't have the money"- If money is tight check out weekday deals or deal websites like www.livingsocial.com. If money is SUPER tight see about staying with an out-of-town friend. One reader writes, "I live in Hollywood and my sister lives by the beach. We'll trade weekends every so often. She loves the new restaurants and shows and I get to relax out of the city". If you don't have an out-of-town friend look for apt-swaps. 


"I don't have anyone to go with"- Vacationing can be difficult when single. Or maybe you have time-off but your partner doesn't. Enlist friends and family. A weekend away is a great way to catch up with friends, or give your mom that spa day she's wanted. For longer vacations there are single's travels groups.  And although it's not for everyone...a night away by yourself might not be a bad idea. A close friend took herself on a solo weekend trip and came back raving about it- massages, pool-time, a nice dinner, and peace and quiet. 


However you swing it, incorporating vacations or getaways (big or small) can leave you feeling refreshed, adventurous, invigorated and is beneficial for mental and physical health.


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